Thursday, June 17, 2010

Second Life is bad for relationships, or is it.

Saw you on twitter Second Life is a terrible place for relationships. I have been the victim of too many gamers and game playing with my human avatar. I am glad to see Second Life having all these should be shut down

Well, my friend, I am sorry that you've had bad relationship experiences. Most of us have. I agree with you that there are a lot of people out there, in both virtual and actual worlds, that seem to thrive on emotional destruction. It is unfortunate, but sadly true. The relative anonymity of the virtual world and the immediacy of interactions within it does tend to amplify these behaviors in some people as well. In cyberspace, people act in ways that they never would in meatspace, in both good and bad ways. However, in my humble opinion, to blame Second Life, or any other environment, virtual or actual, for these behaviors is misguided. I know several people who met one another in SL, or other cyber communities, who have strong, loving, fulfilling relationships. Many of them are married and thriving in First Life as well. Online relationships are fraught with danger, but not so much more so than off line ones. One merely has to be a little more guarded, a little more cautious. Besides, at the risk of sounding like a cheerleader, there is much more to SL than relationships. A great deal of positive, creative, energy flows through those servers. Unfortunately, a lot of it has to either overcome obstacles "the Lab" has put in the way, or has to work especially hard at being heard above the noise of not so positive aspects. But, that is a topic for another forum.

Ask a tiger.

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